An email from Peacemaker Ministries this morning caught my attention. Matthew 18:15 tells us to go to our brothers when they offend us. The Greek tense of "go" implies continual action.
In other words, keep going.
Our initial temptation is not to go at all, just try to work through it ourselves. We may then work up the courage to go once, but if the discussion doesn't proceed well, console ourselves with the fact that we tried.
This seems to take reconciliation to a whole new level. Ouch!